Dating without the intent to marry
Currently, I'm dating someone who I fully expect I will one day marry.
We have been together for a little over a year and he has demonstrated almost all the qualities I need in a partner.
Before continuing with this column, please review the preamble included at the beginning of this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 3: Just Friends » As Christians in dating relationships, we want to avoid hurting one another and dishonoring Christ by "defrauding" (see NASB translation of 1 Thessalonians 4:6) our brothers and sisters in Christ by implying — through word or action — a higher level of commitment to that person than we have made before God.
Because this sort of (perhaps unintentional) deception is a particular temptation in a dating context, we need to be deliberate about avoiding it.
There are several reasons for this: you’re not taking up each other’s time, you understand you’re not dating just to date but with the possible intention of marriage, you’re not on entirely different pages, and it could lead to a lot smoother road towards matrimony.
Being Clear In Your Communication Not only should the pursuer make his intentions clear in the beginning, but he should be clear if he wants to move deeper even while he is pursuing you.
The reasons for which they feel this way are irrelevant.
But if these folks don’t want to be married does that mean they have to be void of romance for the rest of their lives? It would also be remiss of me to not point out how some ladies view dating and sex and how that relates to relationships.
I knew we were wrong for each other but I was trying out the concept of "dating for fun". Dating is for long-term planning and it must include fun but that cannot be the sole purpose.I date with the intention of finding someone with whom to spend my life.I don't feel the need to get married, but I'm looking for a life partner.This is for those of us who truly desire a relationship that will lead to marriage.Whether beginning with online dating or dating in person, making your intentions clear is probably one of the most important things you can do for a healthy relationship.
The same goes for men who desire a godly woman for the intention of marriage.